Movies about marital infidelity
While previously mainly men phenomenon, now infidelity
became more common for married women too. Affairs can occur in happy marriages as well as in troubled ones,
but they dramatically more frequent in troubled one.
Although the involved spouse may not be getting enough from the marriage, often the "disgrunted" spouse
is not giving enough. It take two for tango. Among recommended movies that more or less
realistically touch this theme we can mention:
Among other typical reasons is attempt to raise low self-esteem, relationship deficits
(e.g., lack of affection), or a social context in which infidelity is condoned. It also may indicate
an addiction to sex or romance. People addicted to romantic relationships are driven by the excitement
and emotion which a new relationship temporary brings to them.
Dishonesty is certainly always a part of an infidelity.
Seeking sex outside of the relationship can also be compared to seeking alcohol, drugs, shopping,
gambling; virtually any substance or behavior that provides a “quick fix,” a distraction from everyday
life, something that makes you feel anticipation, intoxication, even fear of being caught doing something
“bad”. It can also be difficult for some people who have sex with someone they have deep intimacy
and connection with. The idea of “dirty” or playful sex with the same person you share so much of
your life with can be a hard concept to reconcile. For some, built into their belief system of “hot”
sex is the idea that the person you are having sex with doesn’t truly know you nor do you know them,
allowing a certain freedom and separation from your real life.
Crossing the line from platonic friendships into romantic relationships is helped by modern communications,
especially Internet, as well as high demand of time of a modern workplace.
Internet bring a new class of affairs called emotional affairs. The latter differ from platonic friendships
by
- greater emotional intimacy than in the marital relationship,
- secrecy and deception from the spouse,
- sexual chemistry.
- absence of physical contact.
Certain life cycle changes (midlife crisis in men, etc) also stimulates infidelity. Some associate
infidelity with selfishness. Some dissatisfied spouses begin an extramarital relationship as a way of
exiting from an unhappy marriage. More frequently, however, the marital history is re-written to justify
an ongoing affair. It is unreasonable to compare a brief splash of intensity of feelings in an affair
which is still at the stage of romantic idealization with the routine familiarity of spouses in a long-term
marriage (The
Causes of Marital Infidelity LIVESTRONG.COM)
The actual chances of infidelity might not be as high as many sources claim. In fact, Dr. John
Grohol, founder and CEO of PsychCentral.com, suggests these chances could be less than six percent
in a given year in his article, "How Common is Cheating and Infidelity Really?" However, he warns
that this number could increase to about 25 percent, depending on how long the relationship runs.
In either case, if you’re worried about infidelity in your relationship, learning the common causes
of cheating can ease your fears or help you address potential problems.
- Physical Desires. Sexual discontentment and desires often contribute to incidents of
cheating, suggests Susan Whitbourne, professor of psychology, in her PsychologyToday.com article,
"The Eight Reasons that People Cheat on Their Partners." Some people expect that a new partner
can serve their sexual needs better than his current spouse. This can especially true if the frequency
or physical passion has diminished over the years. In other cases, a person might believe that
in addition to sex with the spouse that she deserves more encounters.
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Emotional Desires. Emotional needs contribute to incidents of cheating, as well. For
example, feeling an emotional disconnect from a spouse might lead someone to pursue an affair,
suggests Whitbourne. While this infidelity might initially be restricted to an emotional level,
it could grow into a physical affair. In other cases, a partner might feel underappreciated by
a spouse but praised by a third person, leading to cheating. Sometimes a spouse will feel completely
satisfied with their partner, but an emotional desire to simply pursue new experiences could also
lead to affairs.
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Vengeful Desires. Affairs based on revenge are rare, despite over exaggerations in movies,
notes Whitbourne. However, a husband and wife routinely face domestic disputes, it is possible
that one member of the marriage might cheat out of spite. In cases like this, the cheater might
make the affair known to cause his spouse emotional pain. On the other hand, the cheating spouse
might still keep the affair a secret, as the satisfaction of secret payback could be rewarding
enough.
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Platonic Relationship or Affair? Platonic friendships have the potential to evolve into
emotional affairs, warns the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. However, the
line between these two types of relationships can run thin. A platonic friendship becomes an affair
when three conditions are met, suggests the AAMFT. The first is that an emotional affair will
have more emotional intimacy than the marriage itself. The second is that the affair will involve
some level of secrecy. For example, perhaps a husband intentionally does not tell his wife that
he has daily video chats with another woman online. The third trait of an affair is sexual chemistry.
In most people affairs cause feelings of shame and worthlessness. that's not true for sex addicts
and philanderers. The latter perceive extramarital sex as an entitlement and status symbol (the more,
the higher status is). Infidelity is essentially a breach of trust, so it can be any action that
violates an implicit or explicit agreement between two married people.
Jovelyn Garcia
I just can't stand cheating in any form. You better give up the relationship then cheat all
you want. I quit on my marriage because my husband lied to me. I just can't accept deceit cause
i've been honest since day one.
Life becomes polarized into "before" and "after". Some can raise above this breach of trust
in the name of children or similar "higher level" considerations, but many can't. In this case the loss of trust being
irreparable for one, the continued anger and blame intolerable for the other
A majority of respondents in Western society disapprove of extramarital relationships under all
circumstances. Therefore, most persons who enter into extramarital affairs know their partners will
disapprove. Disclosure at some later time, then, will trigger feelings of not only betrayal but also
indignation over the deceit. Many negative feelings (e.g., guilt, fear, anxiety, conflict, fear of
pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease) dissuade individuals from engaging in affairs and
are often experienced by those who entered them. Those experiencing guilt reported less
satisfaction with the affair. The degree of disapproval has been found to be a function of the
nature of the extramarital involvement. These feelings along with anger, sadness, and fear of other
spouse may seriously disrupt or terminate the relationship. For instance, Thompson ( 1984) found
that the combination of emotional and sexual extramarital involvement was viewed as more
unacceptable than just sexual involvement.
Formerly condemned in
the name of
good morals, infidelity is now
condemned as a breach of trust.
the common view is that instead of trying to pursue such
a petty practice
it is better
to tell each
other everything and get out of marriage that proved to
be so unsatisfactory. And is you can't do that you need just shut up and behave yourself
than to resort
to the subterfuges.
Making people laugh
at the misfortunes
of cuckolded husbands
was a mainspring
of boulevard theater
for almost a
century, and the
cuckold has always
been a character
in vaudeville.
However, adultery, even
if it is
discredited, is not
dead: outdated as
a genre, it
remains current as
a practice and
is one of
the main reasons
for the breakdown
of marriages. Adultery
is practiced by
both men and
women who deceive
one another to
combat boredom, to
respond to temptations,
or to lead
several lives at
once; it is
a symptom of
an individualist society
torn between the
ideal of fidelity
and a neoliberal thirst
for unlimited and selfish individualism.
There is also a kind of betrayal with respect to relatives and friends: as Oscar Wilde noted we
stab in the back only those who are close to us and whose weak.
We recall the stories that have run in American newspapers in recent years: the conservative
judge Clarence Thomas, accused in 1991 of having made indecent remarks to one of his advisors at the
Department of Education; Clinton-Lewinsky affair; the tribulations in 2007 of the governor of
New York, Eliot Spitzer, a champion of the fight against prostitution who was caught with a
ravishing twenty-two-year-old brunette whom he was paying for her services; the public confession
made by his successor for fear that later on the press would reveal his own infidelities; and the
attacks made in 2008 against the head of the IMF, Dominique Strauss-Kahn, who had had intimate
relations with one of his former employees.
We can understand that political officials are called upon to be exemplary in their private
behavior: a public man does not belong to himself; if he wants to exercise authority over others, he
must be able to control his own instincts.
There are two types of fidelities: one a fidelity of convention, the other a fidelity
of conviction. The former involves a mechanical observance of social norms, the second a free
decision to be loyal to one’s beloved. Similarly there are a least to types of infidelity: with and
without emotional bonds.
For example, accidental infidelities (“It just
happened”) are unplanned acts based on the situation that arose spontaneously, are are not
expected to last more then a brief encounter. It not always that they develop as planned, so
risk is typically underestimated (Fatal Attraction). Such an
encounter does not entail strong emotional bonds and are somewhat similar with sexual acts with
prostitutes.
Men might
be vulnerable to a sexual encounter for several reasons. They may still remain curious about what
they are missing. The very things most men and women find so exotically attractive in
the beginning often become irritating incompatibilities when you have to live with them.
In any case, once the “honeymoon is over” most couples are disappointed. In addition to the
inevitable disenchantments of marriage, some men and women were unpopular
as teenagers. Now as adults they can't believe that what they once longed for has become theirs for
the asking. Some just can't say no, have had no practice in gracefully refusing a sexual invitation.
Ado Annie in Oklahoma! bemoaned the fact that she just “cain't say no.” Women may be afraid
that by refusing they might crush the man ego, especially if he is her boss. Men are afraid
“the Good Ole' boys” will think him a “wimp” if he declines. Thus they accept sexual overtures they
don't really want. Sometimes, people tend to make impulsive decisions when they are drunk. Or maybe they have just had
a bad (or good) day. Or else they are horny.
In any case, some men just slide into an affair, without
really thinking about consequences. Such an adultery can
be fairly harmless in a marriage — if
the spouse doesn't find out (If the tree falls in the forest and no one sees or hears it, did it fall?). Later, they may be sorry. Laurie Colwin
(1981) depicted the emotions after such a encounter pretty vividly (see also classic scene in the
train in Unfaithful)
I was not prepared for the aftermath of this affair. The distress I felt seemed uncontainable. At the shop I found myself in the bathroom in tears, running the faucets so that Pete would not hear me weeping. … I was beset by devils I had not known existed: grief, rage, longing and pure desire, (pp. 148-149)
Some couples may embark on an extramarital affair as an act of revenge. Other couples may be engaged in a power struggle. Having an affair gives them ammunition to use against one another. They can represent a flamboyant revenge affairs that keep stormy marriages in a state of
intense passion and
jealousy. The sex goes
outside the marriage, but the emotion is still directed in. Unhappily married couples may stay together for a variety of perfectly good reasons. They may decide to stay together “for the sake of the children,” to protect the couple's family, careers, or finances. Some people are in a permanent process of
“getting a divorce.” Their state of prolonged separation protects them from having to get seriously
involved with anyone else. Some are just “shopping around” to see if they can find more suitable
mates. The secrecy of extramarital affairs may add to the erotic thrill. The strategies and
deceptive practices they must adopt to maintain the secret naturally drive a wedge between them and
their mates and cause the two secret lovers to become more obsessed with each other. After all, it
is only to one another that they can speak mindlessly; tell all. Secrecy adds an extra thrill—which
may vary from a shiver of delight to a rush of terror, depending on what is being risked — on each
encounter.
Marital infidelity is not only about devaluing of the other spouse.
It is also the breach of trust. A form of betrayal. The emotions that are connected with marital
infidelity are the same as in case of betrayal. The most challenging aspects of the healing
process are the justifiable rage. So rebuilding trust is difficult unless couple agrees to stay
together for the sake of wellbeing of their children or some other "common cause". This emotional trauma fades with time
but rarely completely. When couples seeking a divorce were asked what caused their breakup, many
cited infidelity as the problem.
The US culture, especially movies has come to glamorize affairs rather than condemn,
them but it not clear what social factors are in play, which is kind of the chicken
the egg problem. As one Amazon reviewer put it:
- The same social forces act on ALL of us, but only SOME of us cheat. Thus, the social forces
cannot explain why cheaters cheat. Differentiating cheaters from others requires looking at variables
on which they differ from others, not on forces common to all.
- Ms. Vaughan's "evidence" that adultery has increased significantly in the last few decades,
when sex has become more public and less closeted, depends to a great extent on generally-unrespected
researchers like Shere Hite. Her figures on the rate of adultery are higher than others I've seen
(and I've read a lot on this subject). So far as I can tell, we do not really know that there has
been a meaningful rise in adultery to accompany the rise in glamorized sexuality (including glamorized
icons of adultery).
- Even if there is a rising rate of adultery, and even if it correlates the social forces Ms.
Vaughan mentions and a rising rate of adultery, it does not follow that one causes the other. Alternative
hypotheses can explain both. One such alternative would be that both are results of increasing egoism
and hedonism, which could result from any of a number of factors--consumerism, the decline of Heaven-oriented
religious belief, decline of community life, commodity-centered views of the person growing out of
capitalist ideology, etc. Another might be that both reflect the decline of patriarchal social structures.
Surely others could be framed. The point is that we just don't know.
My Cheating Heart
What Causes Infidelity - Psychology Tomorrow Magazine
Here are six things I believe everyone can do in order to minimize the risk of infidelity:
Do The Work It Takes To Know Yourself As A Sexual Person.
Read books, take a workshop, talk to a counselor. Study your sexuality as you would any other
subject you were trying to master. Increase your own awareness about what you like and don’t like;
what you fantasize about; how you like to be touched and where; what you would like to try.
Communicate To Your Partner Who You Are Sexually.
Don’t assume that they know! Have an honest conversation at a time when you both feel relaxed
and close. If a tool would facilitate the conversation or if you need some structure around it, take
a questionnaire together and compare answers.
Ask Questions And Listen To Who They Are As A Sexual Person.
Don’t assume that you know! Unless you have asked them and they feel safe in answering, you probably
don’t know all of it. Keep in mind, it may be difficult for your partner to share their sexual desires
and fantasies with you if they are not used to talking about sex or if they are fearful that their
answers will hurt or offend you. Make sure that when you do ask, you are ready for whatever the answers
may be. Do your best to be encouraging and supportive.
Keep An Open Mind And Heart. Be Willing To Try New Things Together.
Try not to judge! In the realm of sexuality, almost anything goes (I say “almost” because the
one caveat is that “anything” must be consensual). People’s sexual desires and expressions are hugely
varied, and you should avoid making assumptions about what they mean as it is unique to each individual.
Many people fantasize about things they are actually not interested in trying in real life or are
only willing to try within the safety of their relationship.
Instead Of Distracting Yourself And Avoiding The Problem, Try To Remain Present And Engaged.
Affairs are distractions, and people distract themselves when they are bored or unhappy. An affair
is a “quick fix” with a long-term consequence, even if not discovered. Do due diligence in your personal
work. You owe it to yourself and to your partner.
Be Honest: Honest With Yourself And Honest With Your Partner.
Honesty early on (before an affair) about your concerns can create an opening for a new level
of intimacy. It can be hard to talk about the fact that you are unhappy with the sex in your relationship
or that you are finding yourself attracted to another person. Too many couples avoid the topic of
sex, especially when it has been a long period of time since partners have had sex because the subject
feels too tense and overwhelming. Honesty after an affair will demonstrate accountability and remorse.
Many partners who “discover” an affair say that the discovery and the deception were the worst part.
So what happens when an infidelity has taken place? The bottom line is that some couples are able
to make it through an affair and some aren’t. Those who do make it through tend to possess two qualities:
a genuine commitment to the relationship and a willingness to show remorse and accountability on
the part of the person who has acted outside of the implicit and explicit relationship agreements.
Also necessary is a willingness to forgive (this may take some time) by the person who feels betrayed.
For the person who had the affair, a first stance when faced with the discovery of the truth and
the potential loss of their relationship may be defensiveness or blame, masking their true feelings
of guilt, shame, and fear. This partner MUST acknowledge that it was their choice and their choice
alone to have an affair, and that nothing, including a lack of sex or disconnection from their partner,
justifies their betrayal. This partner can expect to be in for some rough times ahead. A betrayed
partner will most likely want details; many details, ALL details, and be terrified of new information
being discovered, leaving them in a locked place of terror, anger, and hurt. I believe that it is
best to honor their request for information as it is the first step to rebuilding trust. They will
also tend to question all aspects of what they believed to be true for the relationship, looking
back over time with a view now clouded by the idea that what they believed to be truth in one area
of their relationship was not truth, and so surely there are other areas in which similarly they
were living a lie. Perhaps that even the whole relationship and who their partner presented themselves
as being is a lie.
A couples counselor will be helpful in navigating these very difficult conversations. Both partners
can also benefit from individual therapy to have a space that they can share their feelings without
filter. Books such as After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner
Has Been Unfaithful by
Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD
,
can also help couples navigate this trespass and gain comfort from hearing the stories of those who
have been through a similar ordeal, as well as knowledge about what their partner may be feeling.
Ultimately, it is rarely the act of sex outside of a relationship that makes or breaks a couple’s
ability to survive an infidelity. It is the meaning we attach to the act and the way we proceed with
the information once it has been made known.
Mr.
Cairene on April 22, 2000
BLOOD AND ROSESI read somewhere that the overwelmingly red look of American Beauty
is a symbol for blood and roses. Represented in the film by the flower petals in Lester Burnham's
fantasies, and the blood spilt when the sadness that hovers beneath bears its face. The title
of American Beauty does not refer to the pretty surfaces that hide the anguish of these people,
but the beauty of their souls when dealing with that anguish. Many reviewers have considered the
title to be ironic, it isn't.
I've heard Kevin Spacey say that this film is about context, because taken out of context the
behaviour of these characters seem bizzare and even psychotic, but out with in the context of
their messy lives or indeed anybody's life, it seems natural.
If I tell you that Kevin Spacey plays a character who is obsessed with the idea of sleeping
with his daughter's best friend, a daughter who constantly announces her hatred of her parents,
a woman so obsessed with appearances that happiness is but a memory to her, a loner who makes
his living as a drug dealer with a firm rigid father living in denial about his son and himself,
you would guess that there would be no one to like in this film.
You would be wrong. This film is magical in the way it lets identify with these characters,
care for them and worry about their outcome. Infact the ideas of American Beauty are nothing new.
The pursuit of happiness through the abandoning of materialistic possessions and the satisfaction
of primal, animal and natural desires was the exact same premise for Fight Club. This could be
a middle aged version of that film. The family turmoil closely resembles Ang Lee's The Ice Storm
1998, and like that film, American Beauty ends in tragedy.
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Michael
Crane on February 4, 2004
And
in a way, I am dead already."
"American Beauty" is a pure cinematic triumph that is both funny and sad. It's disturbing... and
yet, it's extremely provocative and deep. The film is an extraordinary achievement that reveals
a tragic and realistic story about a family that is anything but ordinary. It's a film with so
many layers that it is almost impossible to dissect them all in one single thought.Meet Lester
Burnham; a man who feels like he's completely dead inside. His wife and daughter despise him and
do not show him any signs of respect. On the surface, the family seems like a picture-perfect
family that everybody dreams about--but inside is a completely different matter.
His wife is obsessed with material possessions and doesn't care for "petty" things like love
or life, while his daughter resents herself because she isn't "perfect." Lester's mental coma
is rudely interrupted when he meets his daughter's friend and starts fantasizing about her. The
awakening might be due to a disturbing thought or feeling, but the wake-up call changes Lester
and allows him to realize that there's always time to erase his "forced-image" and be the person
he really is. This is all a set-up for a funny, disturbing and tragic movie.
I don't know about everybody else, but my mind was literally racing around when this movie
was playing before my eyes. It's one of those films that allows you to pick up on something different
upon each viewing. As I said in the beginning of the review, this film has a number of layers
to it. There's so many different meanings and points to the film that it is nearly impossible
to describe them all in one little review. Besides, the fun part of the movie is discovering these
meanings and points for yourself. You know a film is successful when you totally lose yourself
to it and allow it to challenge you in every way. The film is crafted flawlessly and doesn't have
a wasted minute in it.
The acting from Kevin Spacey is really a sight to see. He gives his character all of the right
needs and feelings that is necessary for the authenticity of his role. You don't even look at
him as an actor--but as the real person he portrays. It is certainly a milestone in his acting
career that will continue to be remembered throughout all cinematic history. Annette Bening is
also superb in her role and brings life to her character, as well. Everybody in the film should
be applauded, as they all make the film what it is.
The DVD has some neat features to offer. The picture quality is fantastic and the sound is
more than great. You have the option of watching the movie in DTS if your system is able to play
it. Extras included are commentary from the director and writer, a behind-the-scenes featurette,
cast and crew biographies, trailers and more. While I wouldn't had mind a Two-Disc edition of
the movie, this is a pretty impressive package overall.
"American Beauty" is a breath-taking masterpiece with a very high replay value. It's a terrific
film on every front and does not disappoint for a single second. While it's not a movie that everybody
will like, it's most certainly one to check out if you are a lover of films. If you're looking
for something that isn't so ordinary, then this may be the chance that you are seeking. I feel
that it is a unique and superb film that is very hard to express in words--you'll just have to
experience it for yourself. -Michael Crane
Lisa
C on March 21, 2000
Thought-provoking
My initial reaction, "That was weird," has changed to "How thought-provoking." What happens
when characters who struggle to live authentically cross paths with those who struggle to do anything
but?
Lester Burnham and the oddly compelling boy next door both discover the ability to see the
true beauty in life, even in the most unlikely or mundane circumstances. Who is to be pitied more:
Lester, whose life is snuffed out at the moment of pure joy and contentment, or his wife, who
buys into the mantra that one must first attain the appearance of success in order to BE successful?
She fiercely shuts down any intense emotion lest she be overwhelmed, and even her sexual encounters
are comically farcical. "When did you become so joyless?" the soul-searching Lester asks his wife
in a touching moment.
Ricky's character as the boy next door is haunting. He sees life as an artist and a poet; his
serenity contrasts with the stark repression of his military father and soulless mother, and intrigues
Lester's daughter Jane, who possesses Wednesday Addams' moon face and dour disposition. Her struggle
of self-discovery contrasts with that of her best friend, the beautiful and perfect cheerleader
Angela, whose insecurities are masked by sexual bravado.
This is a movie worth seeing . . . worth thinking about long after it's over . . . and a gentle
reminder to live life authentically.
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whirligig from Trinidad, West Indies,
12 May 2002
not quite what I expected!
First off, I was quite surprised to see the cinema so full for this movie, even on opening
weekend. I guess not that many movies for women in their 30's plus exist these days!
I expected this movie, as I'm sure many people did, to be a Fatal Attraction but with the genders
switched around.
I was pleasantly surprised and shocked by it NOT being what I expected, and I definitely enjoyed
it alot more than Fatal Attraction.
The summary of this movie is that Diane Lane's character starts cheating on her husband (Richard
Gere) with a beautiful French man(Olivier Martinez). Everything else should be left for surprise.
The pacing of this movie is perfect. We got a sense of Connie and Edward's home life before she
met the dashing Paul. They have a darling son, Charlie, who adds alot of humour to the movie,
but in a non precocious way. After the affair starts we see Connie's feelings range from excitement
to complete disgust with herself. And of course Edward inevitably finds out. His reaction is interesting,
to say the least, and perhaps very honest.
The acting is great, especially from Diane Lane. The sex scenes are pretty raunchy, and made me
uncomfortable at certain points, but it's interesting to see how different sex with the lover
and sex with the husband were.
At the end of this movie I didn't feel cheated or robbed with some contrived ending (although
others may argue differently). This film dealt with how being in an affair must feel, and how
finding out you're being cheated on could make your react in uncharacteristic ways.
As a movie critic said, this movie will indeed make you never have an affair!
Shirley
Sorenson on May 19, 2015
Sex RevolutionI enjoyed it! The elegance of
Cloris, the fashion, the hair and her acting. I thought it was profound when the husband's secretary
asked him if he would go to her home to stay the night or to "crash." He thought about it but
refused because I am sure he learned his lesson not to go around and fool on his wife. Sex
was casual, very much so back in the early 70's, the sex revolution. I also thought it was ironic
when the girl's mother took the high road when she thought the girl may be pregnant but instead,
she was told that her daughter had VD; and oh boy, that made her mad and trashed her daughter
calling her a tramp.
Holly Kee on February 7, 2014
An Old Take on Kevin BaconI initially watched this movie because my friend, Les Lannom,
had a role in it. I did enjoy the film, especially for its social value of showing the "Kevin
Bacon" effect of casual sex. I also enjoyed the performances of several quality actors including
(but not limited to) Cloris Leachman, Andy Robinson, and Les Lannom.
Runaway Father
DEAD BEAT DADBy
GLENDA
TAYLOR on June 16, 2014
Format: Amazon Video
This movie was difficult for me to watch. One can understand when a woman becomes a single parent
upon the death of her husband. It was gut wrenching to see a man walk away from his pregnant wife
to selfishly live his life without any responsibility toward his wife or daughters. He was an uncaring,
unfeeling cad.
As far as I'm concerned he did not deserve the family he was blessed with.
He played with the hearts and lives of women only to leave them broken and unfulfilled.
The most difficult moment of all was the his meeting with his younger daughter to offer 'a deal'
to get their mother drop the law suit for child support. When asked if he knew a certain young lady
in court he looked at his eldest daughter and saw no one but a stranger. he did not recognize his
own flesh and blood.
The mother of this story is strong because she chooses to be, she just has to be strong for the sake
of her three daughters. She went back to school and earned a degree and worked tirelessly to provide
for herself and her children. Her determination to make the father of her daughters take responsibility
for supporting his children has inspired many other women to hold the fathers of the children responsible
for child support.
Careful who you marryBy
Lee
on February 18, 2015
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It's an old story. Coming out of the 50s women were raised to believe that their knights in shining
armor were going to sweep them off their feet, take care of them, and gleefully support a family.
So many women did not have the skills to make it on their own. In this story a selfish man decided
to desert his wife and children. He was incapable of parental or marital love. He was a luster. A
self-gratifying piece of low humanity. However, after he left, this woman was eventually able to
make something of herself and raise her daughters alone. Hopefully, she raised her daughters to take
care of themselves and when they get married it would be with the expectation of being a full partner
in the marriage instead of a dependent. At first watching this woman grovel as her husband was leaving
was a bit unnerving; however, a person has to take into consideration what life was like during her
time. Great acting, but the story was so typical of what happens when people marry with different
expectations and one partner or the other, sometimes both, are incapable of love and commitment.
The children suffer. So very sad.
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Sins of a Marriage (English Subtitled)
Le Secret (English Subtitled)
Society
Groupthink :
Two Party System
as Polyarchy :
Corruption of Regulators :
Bureaucracies :
Understanding Micromanagers
and Control Freaks : Toxic Managers :
Harvard Mafia :
Diplomatic Communication
: Surviving a Bad Performance
Review : Insufficient Retirement Funds as
Immanent Problem of Neoliberal Regime : PseudoScience :
Who Rules America :
Neoliberalism
: The Iron
Law of Oligarchy :
Libertarian Philosophy
Quotes
War and Peace
: Skeptical
Finance : John
Kenneth Galbraith :Talleyrand :
Oscar Wilde :
Otto Von Bismarck :
Keynes :
George Carlin :
Skeptics :
Propaganda : SE
quotes : Language Design and Programming Quotes :
Random IT-related quotes :
Somerset Maugham :
Marcus Aurelius :
Kurt Vonnegut :
Eric Hoffer :
Winston Churchill :
Napoleon Bonaparte :
Ambrose Bierce :
Bernard Shaw :
Mark Twain Quotes
Bulletin:
Vol 25, No.12 (December, 2013) Rational Fools vs. Efficient Crooks The efficient
markets hypothesis :
Political Skeptic Bulletin, 2013 :
Unemployment Bulletin, 2010 :
Vol 23, No.10
(October, 2011) An observation about corporate security departments :
Slightly Skeptical Euromaydan Chronicles, June 2014 :
Greenspan legacy bulletin, 2008 :
Vol 25, No.10 (October, 2013) Cryptolocker Trojan
(Win32/Crilock.A) :
Vol 25, No.08 (August, 2013) Cloud providers
as intelligence collection hubs :
Financial Humor Bulletin, 2010 :
Inequality Bulletin, 2009 :
Financial Humor Bulletin, 2008 :
Copyleft Problems
Bulletin, 2004 :
Financial Humor Bulletin, 2011 :
Energy Bulletin, 2010 :
Malware Protection Bulletin, 2010 : Vol 26,
No.1 (January, 2013) Object-Oriented Cult :
Political Skeptic Bulletin, 2011 :
Vol 23, No.11 (November, 2011) Softpanorama classification
of sysadmin horror stories : Vol 25, No.05
(May, 2013) Corporate bullshit as a communication method :
Vol 25, No.06 (June, 2013) A Note on the Relationship of Brooks Law and Conway Law
History:
Fifty glorious years (1950-2000):
the triumph of the US computer engineering :
Donald Knuth : TAoCP
and its Influence of Computer Science : Richard Stallman
: Linus Torvalds :
Larry Wall :
John K. Ousterhout :
CTSS : Multix OS Unix
History : Unix shell history :
VI editor :
History of pipes concept :
Solaris : MS DOS
: Programming Languages History :
PL/1 : Simula 67 :
C :
History of GCC development :
Scripting Languages :
Perl history :
OS History : Mail :
DNS : SSH
: CPU Instruction Sets :
SPARC systems 1987-2006 :
Norton Commander :
Norton Utilities :
Norton Ghost :
Frontpage history :
Malware Defense History :
GNU Screen :
OSS early history
Classic books:
The Peter
Principle : Parkinson
Law : 1984 :
The Mythical Man-Month :
How to Solve It by George Polya :
The Art of Computer Programming :
The Elements of Programming Style :
The Unix Hater’s Handbook :
The Jargon file :
The True Believer :
Programming Pearls :
The Good Soldier Svejk :
The Power Elite
Most popular humor pages:
Manifest of the Softpanorama IT Slacker Society :
Ten Commandments
of the IT Slackers Society : Computer Humor Collection
: BSD Logo Story :
The Cuckoo's Egg :
IT Slang : C++ Humor
: ARE YOU A BBS ADDICT? :
The Perl Purity Test :
Object oriented programmers of all nations
: Financial Humor :
Financial Humor Bulletin,
2008 : Financial
Humor Bulletin, 2010 : The Most Comprehensive Collection of Editor-related
Humor : Programming Language Humor :
Goldman Sachs related humor :
Greenspan humor : C Humor :
Scripting Humor :
Real Programmers Humor :
Web Humor : GPL-related Humor
: OFM Humor :
Politically Incorrect Humor :
IDS Humor :
"Linux Sucks" Humor : Russian
Musical Humor : Best Russian Programmer
Humor : Microsoft plans to buy Catholic Church
: Richard Stallman Related Humor :
Admin Humor : Perl-related
Humor : Linus Torvalds Related
humor : PseudoScience Related Humor :
Networking Humor :
Shell Humor :
Financial Humor Bulletin,
2011 : Financial
Humor Bulletin, 2012 :
Financial Humor Bulletin,
2013 : Java Humor : Software
Engineering Humor : Sun Solaris Related Humor :
Education Humor : IBM
Humor : Assembler-related Humor :
VIM Humor : Computer
Viruses Humor : Bright tomorrow is rescheduled
to a day after tomorrow : Classic Computer
Humor
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two types of people: those who understand what they do not manage and those who manage what they do not understand ~Archibald Putt.
Ph.D
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